Journey through grief

In April 2010, our first daughter Sophie arrived stillborn after 8 months. From the moment my wife went for a routine checkup and they couldn’t find a heartbeat, to all the other events that unfolded over the next 24 hours (including our daughter’s birth), it was by far the most traumatic event of my life.

In the weeks that followed, we tried a couple support groups but that didn’t work out well. I think each of those groups could have gone much better if the facilitators didn’t allow one couple to highjack the group exclusively for 45 minutes. That… Continue reading

Gaby’s birthday 2010

This year, we both had the whole day off from work since Gaby’s birthday fell on Memorial Day, and we spent the WHOLE DAY celebrating her wonderfully unique creation.

We slept in since we were up late and a little wound up from the evening before at Jeremy & Catherine’s wedding. We headed downstairs for our morning coffee, each read from our latest books for a little bit, and then we headed out for a walk in the Hills & Dales park down the street from our house. Gaby suggested we bring Sophie’s ashes with us and spread some… Continue reading

How am I doing?

It seems like lots of people are asking me lately how I’m doing, how Gaby and I are “getting along” after losing Sophie. It’s been just over a month since our little girl was born, after already going home to Jesus. This would have been the last week that we were pregnant, putting the finishing touches on the room, buying a few more things, and waking up every day wondering “is she coming today?” But instead, we are left with an empty room, broken hearts, and a deep chasm in our lives that nothing seems to fill lately.

It’s… Continue reading